การทะเลาะวิวาทเกิดจากอกุศลเข้าสิงใจ ชักจูงให้ยินดียินร้ายจนนำไปสู่ความแตกแยก ทางแก้คือวางใจเป็นกลาง ให้ทาน ถือศีล และเจริญภาวนาจนเกิดปัญญาเห็นปัญหาชัดเจน ความเบื่อหน่ายคลายกำหนัดจึงค่อยๆ นำไปสู่ความหลุดพ้นQuarreling arises when unwholesome states take hold of the mind, driving delight and aversion toward division. The remedy is a balanced mind: generosity, virtue, and meditation practice until wisdom sees the problem clearly — from which weariness and detachment gradually lead to release.
Someone brought a teaching from the founding teacher (คุณครูไม่ใหญ่) for the teacher to comment on: "See quarreling as a source of danger, and see harmony as true ; be one who is united and reconciling." Another passage described quarreling as the root of division, keeping hearts apart — there is no finding love or kindness from people who are in the midst of fighting. The Buddha taught that we should never divide people by race, complexion, or status, because in truth all humankind are kin.
The teacher explained that every life is governed by three natures — wholesome, unwholesome, and neutral — and only one ever truly benefits us; the others bring nothing but trouble and harm. Whenever unwholesomeness takes hold of the mind, it brings wrong view laden with greed, aversion, delusion, and lust, along with , steering us toward division. Delight steers toward greed; aversion steers toward resentment and ill will. Either way, the outcome is the same: friction and quarreling.
Unwholesomeness works by overlaying its own body-feeling-mind-mental-object onto ours; once overlaid, its thoughts and feelings surface as our own, because the mind is simply our instrument of knowing — whatever it registers, we register too. Its aim is always ruin. So when delight or aversion is used as the trigger, it leads straight to conflict.
The remedy is to hold the mind in balance — neither delighting in nor resisting the world of sights, sounds, tastes, and so on — seeing clearly how the three natures move in and steer us. From there, cultivate : stand firm in generosity, both material and in the giving of , and in mutual forgiveness; stand firm in , which protects both ourselves and other beings; and withdraw step by step from sensuality until wisdom arises that sees problems and obstacles clearly. Once the problem is seen clearly, weariness and detachment naturally follow — and that, in time, is what leads to genuine release.