พระอาจารย์อธิบายว่าความอยากเป็นความโลภที่เปิดโอกาสให้อกุศลเข้าสิงจิต ทำให้เกิดทุกข์เพราะถูกชี้นำผิดๆ อยู่เสมอ การจะหยุดความอยากได้ต้องเห็นทุกข์โทษภัยของมัน แล้วดำรงอยู่ด้วยฉันทะและความสันโดษแทนตัณหา ตั้งเป้าหมายสูงแต่พอใจในผลเท่าที่ทำได้The teacher explains that desire is a form of greed that opens the door for unwholesome forces to possess the mind, leading to suffering because we are constantly misled. Letting go of desire requires seeing its true danger, then abiding with wholesome aspiration and contentment instead of craving — setting high goals while being satisfied with whatever result we achieve.
Someone asked about a teaching from the late master — "the more you desire, the harder it gets" — wanting to know how to stop desiring.
Why Does Desire Lead to Suffering
The teacher opens with a teaching from Khun Yay forty years ago: people suffer today because they are full of desire. Wanting to be beautiful brings suffering, wanting to be rich brings suffering, wanting to be prominent and famous brings suffering. Khun Yay had no such desires, and so had no suffering — her only wish was to do good, creating pure, clean merit.
Desire is a form of greed. Every time desire arises, we automatically open the door for unwholesome forces to possess the mind. Once possessed, it presses and squeezes our emotions to intensify craving, guiding us through an inner voice to act wrongly, in order to draw in the energy of demerit to drive its own unwholesome system. The more we are caught up in desire, the greater the power of side becomes, causing us to face many obstacles and mistakes, bringing suffering and misfortune in their wake.
Desire differs from wholesome aspiration (chanda), which is in performing reasonable actions — doing what one can and being sfied with that, with contentment. Craving (taṇhā), on the other hand, is fixated purely on the outcome, without concern for whether the means are right and good, scattering the mind, unbalancing it, and leaving no wisdom to solve the obstacles that arise.
How Can We Stop Desiring
Desire can only be let go of once we see its true suffering and danger — without seeing that, there is no way to stop. When unwholesome forces use desire to possess the mind, they press and squeeze us into suffering without our even knowing who is behind it. Everyone wishes for good things, but achieving them requires wisdom, effort, , truthfulness, and determined, step-by-step action.
We should set our goals high, then proceed using wholesome aspiration and wisdom — but whatever result we achieve, we should be content with that for now, without pressuring ourselves. At the very least, we will have done our best, and that becomes experience that improves our next attempt. When aspiration and wisdom lie behind our actions, side will guide us to see the process clearly, step by step, and the mind stays calm and strong. But when greed lies behind our actions, even if it looks like there's a plan, we act with a scattered mind, full of confusion, and cannot truly succeed.
Why Do Some People Follow a System for a While, See No Results, and Give Up
This happens because they are not truly abiding in the correct system — not genuinely grounded in aspiration, wisdom, and contentment, but still carrying desire rooted in greed, which lacks wisdom. It may look like they have principles and a plan, but they act with a scattered mind because desire and greed are guiding them from behind. Comparing those who fail with those who succeed reveals a clear difference: those who succeed tend to proceed gradually with contentment, staying steady, not hoping to get rich quickly; those who fail tend to be greedy for quick, large results — driven the whole time by unwholesome forces pressing from behind.